House of Cards – Secrets, Lies, and Denial

Recently, I was asked why family of origin would side with an abusive in-law as opposed to the victimized family member. The woman asked me, “Why does my client’s own family not believe her?” Then she explained the fact that the victim’s family has been hiding the secret of abuse by the father toward their […]

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Memories: Like the horrors of my mind

FOGGY* teary-eyed memories…of the way we were……….. Some days and nights the memories just come out of nowhere. Lately, it seems I am having triggered memories that are not necessarily new, but I now understand more about the memory than I have in the past when it came up. I found myself today feeling shaky […]

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The Terrorist at Home

Terrorism is an excellent descriptor for this life we have lived. In order to survive, we must become Homeland Security agents devising ways to liberate the homeland hostages and extract the terrorist. The only problem is the survivors are playing all roles in this very dangerous made for real life drama.

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Making Excuses – Breaking Excuses

Making excuses used to be my specialty! I love the acronym FOG – Fear Obligation and Guilt. It was coined by Susan Forward & Donna Frazier in the book Emotional Blackmail. It is a perfect descriptor of what kept me making excuses and how I was so well controlled on so many levels.

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Hostage No More

The hostage conversation is very comforting to me. For years, I have watched movies about hostage situations and had thoughts like, “when I was a hostage” or “in my situation” and then I would think I was a little crazy because I had never been a hostage! But, I could clearly identify with the hostage […]

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2 No more FOG – Fear Obligation and Guilt

I was so excited to learn this acronym! I have recently realized how deeply entrenched in the FOG I have been for most of my life. There has always been someone telling me either directly or indirectly to keep quiet. Don’t tell. It’s OK now. Let’s     just pretend like this doesn’t happen in our family. […]

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Teen Moms and Dads Must Finish School

Finishing School as a Mom Finishing school as a mom is tough.  But, One of the most important things a teen mom can do is finish school, but most teen moms drop out of high school and never complete their education. Though teen moms face many challenges to finishing school, they do have options.

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Surviving an Unplanned Pregnancy

Surviving an unplanned pregnancy can be challenging, even for adults and teens face even more challenges. But, if you make good choices you can have a happy healthy pregnancy. Keep reading for tips on surviving your pregnancy and what to expect during your pregnancy.

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